Pre-Selling Boosts Affiliate Sales Through the Roof

One of my difficulties when I first started learning affiliate marketing was understanding the difference between recommending a product and selling a product. I thought that essentially they were one and the same and that was a huge mistake.

The short difference is the fact that it is the job of a sales page to sell. It is not necessary for an affiliate to sell, their job is to recommend. Anything will come across as pushy.

Once you get your head around that simple difference your conversions will improve. It is all about building relationships, you can have the best website in the world, but if you are not engaging with people then you are dead in the water. That is one of the benefits of social media when you engage you get a tangible reaction(even if it is one you did not intend).

Just recommending a product does not cut mustard, mainly because people buy for psychological reasons. Most people don’t buy as a result of need; they buy because they feel that there life would be incomplete without it

Pre-Selling Boosts Affiliate sales through the roof

It is the job of the sales page to pull those emotional strings. Just watch a well known soft drink advert, especially at Christmas, they are not selling a drink they are selling a dream. They portray the idyllic, the nirvana of a happy and prosperous family without financial worries, having a magical time.

What is your reaction when you read a recommendation or a review and every third sentence there is a hyperlink to buy?

Most people switch off. This reaction to a certain extent is cultural, the Americans are more used to the hard sell than Europeans. Hard sell is not necessary, engaging with your reader’s is much more effective.

It’s a bit like when you go into the department store or your local clothes shop and a pushy aggressive sales person grabs you the second you walk through the door, you just want to run.

We all pre sell every day in our verbal communication.

We use pre sell automatically, to persuade our family and friends to do what we want. It is fairly easy to negotiate verbally. However, a lot of people struggle to put that skill into the written word. One of the reasons for that is the fact that when we are negotiating with people we have a reply from then, which we can react to immediately.

For instance if you want your partner to go out for dinner during the world cup, and your partner is a football fanatic, then you are going to have to offer something in return. Whatever, that thing is does depend on your partner. One of the things for sure is the fact that you are going to have to be interact to get your way and in the end you may have to be proactive. You may have to offer to clean the car or do the ironing, but just saying

“We’re going to go out and that’s that!

You may get you your own way, because your partner loves you, but it also may build resentment. Creating the mood for your message is more productive. Don’t just blurt it out, pave the way for your words. Your readers don’t love you if they feel you can’t feel their pain.

Again talking is easier, some people when writing speak to their readers which comes across as a lecture, rather than a natural discussion. Although you are not necessarily getting a response from your readers in terms of comments, you can three things here:-

1. Think about the questions your readers may be asking as they read your content.

2. Put those questions into your content. Such as “do you think that this would help you overcome… ?”

3. Encourage your readers to ask any questions in the comments. This can be quite hard to do to start, so ask your own. Log out of your blog as an administrator, and ask a question under another email address.

Remember that most people use a search engine the quickest and easiest way. They don’t use the advanced search which can specify that they want content published in the last year, or in a certain form such as a pdf.

They want a quick and easy answer. Let the search engines know that you have the answer. The search engine bots can’t work intuitively, they can’t work out context in the way that humans can.

If you have ever used a speech to text editor such as dragon you will know that it types what you say. I was using it yesterday, ad my cell phone rang. Of course I answered it and spoke to my caller. Unfortunately, I forgot to turn my microphone off on the PC and it typed the whole conversation.

Sometimes we do that when writing we ramble on about things the reader does not want to hear. The search engines pick up on the extraneous and that dilutes your message.

Become a mind reader to Grasp Pre-Selling Boosts Affiliate sales through the roof

Understand what your customer is looking for. Today I saw a tee shirt which read

“f*** Google

Ask me!

That is what you want your readers to do.

Go to Amazon browse for books that are relevant to your niche and look at the comments and reviews. You can use this to get a feel for exactly what your potential customers want – what they feel is an indication of what is missing from what’s already out there on the market.

Use forums to understand the pain your readers are feeling and respond to that in your blog posts. You’re not doing all this research to try to take advantage of anyone! You always want to have people’s best interests in mind. Studying your niche allows you do just that! This will help you choose products, create products, and present the best possible options to really help people.

Years ago I read an excellent book by Site Sell and I make a point of reading it every few years. When I looked yesterday I notice that they have updated it to include social media. It is over a hundred pages of great content it is completely free, get it here on my blog.

Treat Your Business Like a Business

The first rule of being in business for yourself is to go to work every day as if it were a job. Whether you are new to being an entrepreneur or you have primarily or exclusively worked for someone else, this way of planning for your workday will help you transition into being a profitable business owner. The sooner you take your business seriously, the happier and more prosperous you will be in your venture.

The second rule is to get in the game and stay in the game. You must remain active over time in order to prosper and to develop yourself into a competent and seasoned professional.

MAKE A PLAN

Create a game plan so that you can lift your business off the ground as soon as possible. The details of this plan will depend entirely on your goals, your level of ambition, how much time you are able and willing to allocate to your business, and whether or not your network marketing income is going to be your primary or secondary source of revenue. This should be discussed openly with your sponsor from the beginning. It can become an on-going dialogue as you, your vision, and your business evolve.

Madeline is one of the top earners of a network marketing company. Madeline started her business fourteen years ago with the goal to get her products paid for. At the time, she had four small children and only worked a few hours per week. Her customer base grew gradually as she shared the products with people she knew. She never became aggressive in her sales attempts. For years she never ventured outside of her circle of friends and acquaintances, enrolling a few friends and helping them enroll a few people whom they knew.

What Madeline realizes now, but did not see then, is that her efforts were building to something far more significant than her initial goal. If she had it all to do again, she said she would have been grateful for those few hours per week she was able to devote to her enterprise, instead of always telling herself that she was not doing enough. She did not foresee herself achieving her current status with her company and influencing as many people as she has over the years.

If you want to make ten thousand dollars per month in one year, and you have only five hours per week, you will need to adjust either your goal or your activities. Ideally your sponsor will help you figure out how much time and effort is necessary for you to achieve your goals and what you can realistically expect from the time you can allocate to your business. Discussing your goals with your sponsor will help you steer through this initial start-up phase. With an understanding and appreciation of the fact that you will need to put time into your business before you see significant results, you will be better prepared to defer gratification as you give your business time to stabilize.

PEOPLE WHO NEED PEOPLE

It is important that you start your names list shortly after you complete your application. This list is the basis for identifying people whom you might like to work with and who might be interested in your products. No names list, no business. Your names list is as important a tool for you as a hammer is to a carpenter.

Who will you contact and how will you find people? Some distributors prefer to do all of their marketing on-line, with leads, virtual ad campaigns, and social media. However, keep in mind that most people get introduced to this business by someone they already know, or someone they meet personally. Even if you meet someone in a chat room or from an Internet lead, you must focus on establishing a relationship with that person. You need to develop your ability to deepen your connections and build rapport with the people who are considering your business and your products. You must connect with people before either party decides to work with the other.

Since nobody you speak with must become your next associate or your next customer, you can relax. If you think that someone could be the next superstar in your organization, keep your expectations in check. The only person who has the potential of being a big contributor and strong leader on your team is someone who is willing to make building his business a priority and take this seriously. Discuss goals openly with all of your prospective business partners. Separate your needs from these conversations with people and you will exert less pressure and feel more at ease. You will also be better prepared to listen to what someone wants to achieve if you suspend what you want during the discussion. The mantra is: Make it about the other person. Serve more people if you want to sell more products and enroll more associates into your organization.

RESOLVING YOUR CONCERNS

If you are unsure about network marketing, it will be difficult to encourage others to believe in what you are doing. If you have not experienced your company’s products, it is unlikely you will market them successfully. Educate yourself about your company and the industry so you can speak reliably about both. Become your own best customer and product user. You want to stand tall and firm in your secure knowledge of the value of what you are offering.

Your unshakable belief is what you relay when you speak with people. The stronger your belief, the more people you will influence. When your belief is strong no matter what anyone says, you will not get knocked to the ground and your journey will be much smoother. If you encounter “dream stealers”-people who want to talk you out of your new business-you remain steady and confident. This is posture and it comes with practice.

Gradually, the final and most important belief kicks in: belief in you. It cannot happen overnight, so try to stay grounded and focused as you build up this cornerstone of your business. You may have been blessed with high achievement and expertise in another field, perhaps the one you were involved in when you started your network marketing business. Even if you have already done well elsewhere in your life, it is your belief in your ability in this, your networking business, that is essential for you to build a thriving and sustaining organization Believing in yourself and feeling confident in your new venture may come in fits and starts, but come it will as long as you are continuously practicing and improving

FILLING YOUR FUNNEL

Your funnel represents the people who are in various stages of reviewing material about your products and your business opportunity. Your business will grow as a result of your finding good, strong, motivated individuals for your group and loyal product users as customers. You will be solely responsible for this by keeping yourself in production mode and continuing to contact people as you develop your network. Just as a dentist needs teeth to repair, you need people to be looking at your products and your business. The more prospects in your funnel and the more skillful you become at helping them understand the benefits to them of your business and product line, the more likely you will develop a strong customer base and a thriving organization of active distributors.

Successful entrepreneurs develop simple, effective routines which they repeat day in and day out over a long enough period of time to eventually experience quantum returns. For example, Jacqueline is a realtor who was very busy when she started in network marketing. In the beginning, she built her networking business by looking for just a couple of strong team members to help launch her organization. She decided to build her business by doing two things every week:

1. She made calls every Wednesday morning from nine to eleven-thirty.
2. She attended one opportunity meeting with at least one guest every Thursday evening.

She did not experience immediate results, but because Jacqueline was persistent and consistent, after a couple months of this activity she brought two very strong members into her organization. Both immediately focused on building their organizations. In this same time period, Jacqueline also picked up two loyal customers. The return on both of these placements is potentially quite significant. The results did not develop overnight but they could pay Jacqueline back indefinitely.

Follow up is the key. As you fill your funnel, keep track of people who are not interested now but who might be more open-minded later when their circumstances change. Keep notes on these people so you can help them move forward when they are ready to take action. You will need some kind of system to remember all of the people you have spoken with and where you left off with each person. What material have you shared with this person? What were his concerns? When did you agree to contact him again? Whether it is an old metal box with file cards or a completely high-tech electronic contact manager, the only thing that matters is that you put your system to use consistently.

THE APPROACH

Learning how to effectively approach people to see if they might be interested in your business and products is among the most important skills you will acquire. In the early days of your business you will need to talk with many more people relative to the number who will actually want to buy your products or join your organization. This is an important time to keep your expectations in check. It is also the time that you are climbing up the learning curve, honing your expertise. Checking in with your sponsor, role-playing, and using all of the training tools that will be made available to you will make a world of difference. As you get some success under your belt, this aspect of network marketing can become a lot more fun and less daunting than in the beginning. I have found after considerable practice that I have been able to attract loyal customers and strong business partners with much greater ease with each passing year. Now, after many years in network marketing, it seems that I attract quality customers and new associates everywhere I go. This was definitely not my experience in the beginning.

If you or the person you are enrolling has concerns about approaching friends and family, take heed. The very nature of network marketing is word-of-mouth advertising. You should learn how to approach friends and family in an ethical and professional manner. Learning approaching methods that honor the relationships you have with people you know, love, with whom you work, and who you care about will be very good for business and ultimately good for the people who you approach. If you chose products that you believe can be of great benefit to those who use them, it should become apparent to you that it is your job to be the spokesperson for your company so that others can learn about them. Why would you want to deny the people you care most about the benefit of the products that you now distribute? Only fear and a lack of know-how could get in your way. Resolve both by learning the ropes. Your warm market-people you already know-are a gold mine for getting your business off the ground. And with the proper mind-set, you are offering your friends and family a gift by sharing with them the benefits of your products and, for some of them, your home-based business opportunity.

Here are some tips for successfully approaching someone about your business and products.

• Do not say anything about your products or about the opportunity until you know that the person you are speaking with has a need or want that you believe you can help him achieve.
• Think of yourself as a purveyor of information and a resource for solutions. Be a trustworthy advisor, always keeping the other person’s best interest in mind.
• Be disarming by telling someone that you do not know if she will be interested. By letting her off the hook, she can relax more and hopefully listen better.
• Create conversations with people. Communicate, do not lecture. Ask questions to engage people in the discussion. One of the most common mistakes made by someone whose communication skills are lacking is to ask a question and then neglect to give the other person time to think of his answer. Conversely, a good communicator asks questions and waits while the other person takes the time to consider the question. “John, you are nodding your head in agreement. What does this information about living a longer, healthier life mean to you?” Pause. Give John a moment to reflect.
• Once the dialogue begins I let people know that as a result of their listening to the information I have to share with them one of several things could happen: they might become interested in my products and in becoming a customer; they might be interested to learn how to do what I do, which is recommend the products to others for profit; they might be interested in neither at this time; or perhaps they would consider referring someone they know to me. Any of those outcomes is fine with me; I will help them see if there is anything of benefit for them in what I offer.
• When speaking with prospective associates or customers, you might wonder whether you should lead with the business or lead with the products. Instead, listen to what they need and lead with your heart. Listening to someone’s interests and concerns will guide you in knowing best how to serve her with your products and/or your business opportunity.

When approaching someone, here are two techniques to begin a conversation. I call this the “I Thought of You” method.

• I thought of you because… [Fill in something that this person wants or needs that you believe can be addressed by your products or business.]
a. I thought of you because you have recently talked about wanting to lose weight.
b. I thought of you because you have mentioned lately how tired you are at the end of the day.
c. I thought of you because you told me last week that you are unsure about the security of your job.
d. I thought of you because you told me you did not know how you would balance having a new baby with working.
e. I thought of you because as long as I have known you, you have been talking about wanting to be your own boss.
• I thought of you because… [Fill in something about this person that represents a skill or talent you see as a potential asset for your marketing organization.]
a. I thought of you because you are one of the most out-going people I know.
b. I thought of you because you seem driven like I am, and I like that about you.
c. I thought of you because I see what great leadership skills you have.
d. I thought of you because you are a walking billboard for healthy living and taking great care of yourself. (You can adjust this to reflect the products or services your business offers.)
e. I thought of you because you have excellent people skills.
f. I thought of you because you are one of the most goal-oriented people I know.
g. I thought of you because of your passion for serving others.

Speak the truth. Do not cheapen any of these conversation starters by being insincere. Even if you are using the most sophisticated on-line tools, ultimately people will join your organization because of you. The videos, websites, CD’s, DVD’s, and testimonials you share with your prospects are the tools. Building relationships based on authenticity, service, and trust is the craft.

THE INVITATION

Once you have begun the conversation with a prospective associate or customer, you will want her to do something to learn more. That could be any of the following:

• Sample some products.
• Watch a DVD.
• Visit a website.
• Read a newspaper.
• Attend an event.
• Attend a webinar.
• Meet with you
• Listen to a full presentation.

You will find that people will not always follow through on their promises to try products, review materials, or even show up for events. Succeeding in this business requires a lot of patience. I don’t stress when someone reschedules an appointment or does not do what she said she would do; nor should you. But once someone is engaged, I monitor her diligently, for it is my responsibility to help her move forward. My job is to help someone do something that is in her best interest. If things do not go as I had hoped, I must remind myself that some of the greatest connections I will ever make-in life and in business-may be the result of a slow start. You can begin with the end in mind, which is to help people see the personal and specific benefits of using your products and joining your organization. But do not let yourself be blinded by that vision. Create interest and reduce resistance. Taking things step by step increases the chances that you will stay connected to and be in harmony with people.

While your prospective associate or customer has materials to review, it is good to touch base, ask him if he has any questions, and say something genuinely encouraging that is personal to him. For example, for the man who recently joined my organization, I focused on the fact that he is a fitness trainer and is in incredible shape. I mentioned that I was excited to find out if he saw how he might incorporate the weight management products my company markets into his work with his fitness clients. Use word pictures to paint a mental image of how the person you are speaking with may benefit from what you have to offer. When I enrolled a public school teacher, I asked her if she was open to having an event to which we invite other teachers who, like her, wanted to earn more money. I also told her that I was excited to put her teaching skills to work since much of this business entails training others. Use your imagination to help people see how they can work within their communities and within their own circles of influence to help expand the network. You must help people visualize themselves being successful.

The sequence is fairly predictable, although variations will present themselves. For example, what begins as a discussion about the business might evolve into a conversation in which someone decides to be a customer. The opposite can happen as well. The key is to be flexible and to listen to what the other person wants and-just as importantly-what she says she is willing to do. If someone tells you that she would never, ever consider taking nutritional products-or whatever your product happens to be-that she doesn’t believe in them, and that she has no interest whatsoever to understand the benefits, you can try to convert her, but I do not recommend this. In a situation like this, there is probably too much resistance. A new associate who repeatedly tries to convert people in this way might actually quit the business because working against people who are very close-minded is incredibly unpleasant.

PRESENTING

The most successful business leaders learn how to give an excellent presentation of their company’s products and business. The best network marketing companies provide their distributors with standard presentations in a number of formats, which highlight the company’s business and products. Top distributors may also share presentations that they themselves develop or modify. Whether you’re a new associate or you have been in the business for a while and now want to move to the next level, the smartest way to acquire and hone your presentation skills is to continually tune into presentations provided by your company and its top distributors. If possible, acquire a recording of one of these excellent presentations and have it transcribed. This will be an invaluable basis for your own presentation. It may take you a few months to become proficient at giving a top-notch presentation, and you will definitely have to practice quite a few times. But doing so will reward you for the rest of your networking career.

Working with a variety of personality types has taught me the importance of my being adaptive while building personal connections with prospective customers and associates. If you are super-high-energy or have an aggressive personality you may need to tone it down just a tad to make sure that you are not overwhelming the person you are speaking with. If you tend toward introversion and are very soft spoken or even shy, you should become more animated and perhaps more assertive when giving a presentation. In either case, learning how to move toward the middle is good practice for learning to be a more expressive, well-rounded person. Whatever you can do to enhance your ability to connect with another person will be good for your business and good for your own personal development. Top earners in network marketing continually practice their people skills, seeking to master the art of connecting with others. They also tend to be genuinely enthusiastic and excited about their products and business. This is something worth striving toward if you want to take your business to the next level.

As one who enrolls new associates on a consistent basis, I have studied and practiced numerous aspects of communication, persuasion, influence, listening, and selling. I realize that when I am sitting across from a prospective customer or associate I can make or break a conversation that could alter the course of this person’s life. Because it is my intention to bring on as many qualified new team members as possible, I have a few personal mandates that shape every presentation I give. It is the direct communication of these core values that I believe supports my ability to consistently bring new people into my organization. You too can practice these.

• People will encounter hurdles as they consider the business. You can address these hurdles one at a time and discuss them openly as you move along in the discussion. For instance, one hurdle that people frequently encounter is that this is a home-based business. You should mention that although we interact with other people regularly, there is typically no office outside of the home where we conduct business. Find out what the other person thinks about this. I have released many individuals who were 100% positive that they wanted a regular nine-to-five job and had no interest in learning about alternatives. Discuss the benefits of your products openly and ask the prospect if she would tell others about them if she knew what to say and how to say it. We train our new associates. Is the person you are sitting across from trainable? It takes about ten hours a week to launch a business like this. Is that feasible? You should identify the hurdles relevant to your opportunity and discuss them frankly.
• Think continuously that you are helping the person you are speaking with understand the value of your company’s products and business opportunity. Your job is to explain how the products work, how we make money, what the training entails, and what the lifestyle benefits are. When presenting, the more you help, the more your business will grow.
• Engage your prospect. A great presentation is more a conversation and less a lecture. Ask for feedback. Encourage questions and concerns. You want the other person to participate in moving this conversation forward. As part of your discussion, explore the benefits for the prospective associate. How many ways can you see eye-to-eye with this person with whom you are considering a working relationship? The mini-agreements that you create with the other person become the building blocks for forming a full-fledged business partnership.
• In Influencer, the authors (Patterson, Grenny, Maxfield, McMillan, and Switzler) state that if we want to influence someone to do something, it is important to be trustworthy. Avoiding hype and manipulative alterations of the truth will enable you to be even more influential. Trustworthiness trumps exaggeration every time and is a key ingredient among members of a stable organization. The no-hype rule begins when you first speak with a prospect, and continues well into the presentation and beyond.
• Have your prospect’s best interest at heart. When your intentions are pure, you can help the person you are speaking with to be more open and receptive. Ask the person you are speaking with to consider you as an advisor. Let her know that you will be considering everything about her situation as you make recommendations.

STAYING IN THE CONVERSATION

If you want to put to rest any concerns you have about your prospective associate or customer’s objections, ask for them. You can say this. “Jamie, along the way hopefully you will have questions and concerns. Let’s make sure to get them out in the open and I will address them as best I can.” When you discuss her concerns with her in this way it helps her feel that you are there to help. If you hear an objection that you do not know how to address, tell her that you think it is a terrific question, and that you would like to do some research, or perhaps bring someone to the discussion who has more experience than you do.

You can guide a conversation toward higher ground with a positive attitude. Saying “I am so pleased how this conversation went today” conveys to the prospect that you are not attached to a different outcome, you accept his position, you appreciate his concerns, that you don’t need for him to make a decision today, and other subtle cues that keep him engaged. Recently, I spoke with a woman who apologized for not wanting to meet with me until she had seen the on-line web tour. I told her that was an excellent decision and I looked forward to sending her the link. It doesn’t matter if I wanted to meet with her in person if she was not ready or if that is not what she wanted. By having her decision validated, she feels good about the next step, and we can move forward together. In fact, during this particular conversation, she started off sounding skeptical and hesitant. By the end of the conversation she thanked me and told me how much she was looking forward to reconnecting with me the next week.

TIME TO ENROLL

By the time you have gone over all of the material, you may have a new friend. The person who is sitting opposite from you has gotten a sense of you. She feels honored and supported. The encouragement you have offered along the way has been genuine and personal. You have addressed her questions openly and responsibly and she knows that you have her best interest at heart.

I always let a prospective associate know that the outcome will be up to her. If she wants to move slowly, I will be a step ahead of her with fresh ideas to help her achieve the goals she sets for herself. If she wants to move very fast, I will be a step ahead of her to ensure that she gets exactly what she needs to move her business along quickly. I let her know what she can count on me for, and we talk about what is expected of her in terms of contributing to the organization. What special talents does she have from which the rest of the group can benefit? Teachers are encouraged to teach, fitness trainers are encouraged to present the benefits of the products to athletes, and corporate warriors are asked to shed light on organization development. I help people feel that they can make a difference to the entire group.

By now in the process, everything has been discussed and an enrollment is the natural next step. The person who is right for this business will often self-enroll by asking you what is required to become an associate. A pattern has emerged in which everything has been talked about openly. Trust has been established, and you have moved together toward a partnership. A seasoned associate knows the difference between encouraging someone at the right time, and pushing back against someone’s resistance. The former feels good and will make you want to keep doing this business. It is a function of sensing when someone is ready for the next step, and having your encouragement align with the person’s eagerness. The latter causes both parties to feel uncomfortable and explains why some people want to quit so early on. Trying to get someone to do something against his will is very different from helping him get what he wants. When you sense that someone is excited and ready to join your organization, offering to help him become a member of your team is the natural progression.

When you help people feel good about starting their business with you, you increase the chances that they will want to continue to be in business with you and will want others to join them. A lasting partnership starts with you as the person whom others trust. You have been impeccable every step along the way and you have earned your title as leader.

You have not tried to force the wrong person into your business. You have focused all of your energy in working with people who participated with you, in moving the process forward. You didn’t push against people. You were in the flow. Imagine that the person you are working with could become an asset to your organization forever.

How My Dog Helped Me Improve In Social Media

You might be thinking, now that is a stretch! Well you might be right but actually, my dogs have always taught me how to be a better person and so it goes without saying how to be better at social media.

My dog is a standard poodle named Pilot. His temperament is unlike any dog I have ever had before and his sensibility about people is impressive. As a result of his special skills we volunteer as a pet partner team at hospitals. He has an uncanny sense of how to engage children who are frightened of dogs and he knows how to attract the attention of adults who are just not interested. Watching him, I have learned what people warm up to and how to get past their fears. I of course can’t mimic his behavior for if I did, I would get arrested or smacked upside the head for sure (he’s a notorious crotch-nuzzler), and I can’t rely on a cute fuzzy face with big brown eyes to be my secret weapon. What I can do however is gain a better understanding of human nature and learn how to engage people, even when they don’t appear to want to.

1. Fear is irrational but must be respected. When Pilot meets someone who is afraid of dogs he sits very still and very quietly with his back to them, but in their path. He seems to know that a staring contest would be aggressive and to approach would be fruitless. What he seems to also know is that he is too cute to resist for long. In social media, forcing someone to ‘see’ you is not going to work, but finding ways to be seen can work. The more you can get ‘seen’ in an unaggressive light, the less uncomfortable your presence will become and soon you will feel like a friend.

2. Disinterest and indifference usually comes from lack of perceived value or relevancy. When Pilot meets someone who is not willing to engage with him he sizes them up first. If he feels that the person is never going to warm up he treats them with the same indifference. However, if he senses that they could warm up, he walks over and leans into them. Again, he remains calm and quiet so not to intrude but he makes his presence known. If after a few minutes there is still no response he begins to rub his head into their side, which invariably pulls down a hand and once they touch him, his soft fluffy hair is something they get lost in and a new friend is made. Translated for social media, this is finding ways to represent value. How can you add to the conversation, offer something that will either make them feel good or be useful? The more often you can tweet or share something relevant and useful to someone the more likely they are to recognize your value. But be patient. This could take awhile.

3. Having fun is attractive. Poodles are known for their playful and clownish nature as well as their intelligence. What Pilot has figured out is that when he wants to play with someone he needs to demonstrate how much fun that would be. He starts with the doggie bow – butt up in the air, paws forward, head arched. The intended playmate can’t help but giggle and play begins. Sometimes when this doesn’t work he starts doing tricks on his own. He knows that these behaviors bring him treats and must be thinking that it is a behavior we humans value. So he does tricks on his own. In social media if you are having fun, enjoying what you are doing this is attractive to others. Being playful at times makes good business sense since we all can use a smile and a laugh now and again. So sharing an unexpected funny video or comic strip can get you some attention and give them a moment of play they will appreciate. If you have a ‘trick’ you can perform, by all means make a video and share it with us.

4. Dogs don’t hold grudges. If you yell at a pet or ignore them they accept that and move on. By moving on what I mean is that they yield in the moment but never let it affect their relationship. In social media you should ignore bad behavior and if it is someone you value, don’t hold a grudge just let some time or the incident pass and get on with business as usual.

5. Pilot is house broken – what this means is that he never relieves himself indoors. What that has taught me in social media is that one should never give over to an urge or reaction to make a mess or get ugly online. Take it outside and offline.

Yes, lessons from my dog have helped me be a better person and become a better social media person too. Is there anything you would care to share?